I am not versed in psychology or counseling, and I suggest you seek out someone licensed to deal with those emotional issues before entering into a new relationship. Realistically, you are an adult and no one wants to be alone.
However, I will discuss the legal and strategic consequences. But, I would advise you to think long and hard before entering into relationship before you are divorced, and to remember, if the "new" person in your life really cares about you, he or she will understand the situation and can wait the few months until your divorce is final. Here's why: The bottom line is this: until your divorce is final, you are still legally married. Even though you have a separation agreement, in the eyes of the law, you are still legally married and, therefore, not free to date.
Of course, your mind is filled with questions about what to do next. Am I entitled to post-separation support (pss) or alimony? Sure, it's the question we all want to ask but are too embarrassed to come out and say, "Can I date while I'm separated? Your attorney is not going judge you (and if they do, you need to find a new attorney right away).
These kinds of issues will be on the judge's mind when making determinations of who will be the most "fit" parent, what kind of custody should be ordered, and how liberal of visitation the non-custodial parent receives.
A judge may be reluctant to expose and introduce your child(ren) to this new person. In North Carolina, child support is set using the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines.
A supporting spouse who has committed an act of illicit sexual behavior before the date of separation must pay alimony.
When both spouses have committed acts of illicit sexual behavior, the court will weigh the relative fault of the parties to determine whether support should be awarded.
Now, while you may want to move on and put the former relationship behind you, if children are involved, you will be tied to that person for some length of time.