She called it off due to what she said was her not being ready to commit.
We are still friends and I call her every now and then.
Some careful dialogue with the guy usually uncovers the fact that he was very attracted to the TS's femininity. What a pre-op transsexual woman wants in a guy is what most any woman wants in a guy. If a guy wants to develop a relationship with a TS (think this through carefully) how should he approach her?
One guy told me dating a so-called independent woman "is like dating your brother." Who among the women of today delight in being extremely (and classically) feminine? Others find solace with a pre-op transsexual because she used to be a male and has a far better understanding of what it means to be male than most GG's ever will. In other words, treat her like he would any GG date, at a pace that he can handle, given his concerns. This quote came to me this evening as I was writing this article.
Some men find today's so-called independent woman to be not very feminine at all, overly assertive, argumentative, prone to characterizing a simple male advance as "harassment," and a general pain in the ass to be around.
There is a special class of woman out there, with a different set of attributes than the "genetic girl," or GG. Her look, her voice, her movement, her laugh, her smile, her scent, and all those other feminine cues that trigger interest and a masculine response from a guy. Therefore, if a straight man finds himself interested in a pre-op transsexual and is experiencing some confusion as a result, then he needs to consider exactly what it is about her that is attracting him. A TS who hangs out online gets a million instant messages and emails about sexual encounters.
It's the transsexual woman, or "TS." A woman who used to be a male. If it's her femininity, then he's not responding like a gay man would, and thus shouldn't worry about whether he's "turning gay." If the guy can accept that he is attracted to a somewhat different kind of woman and still wants to pursue it, take it just one step at a time. A TS who has the genuine sensibilities of the female will not respond to sexual adventure proposals any better than most GG's will.
They seek to deny (to themselves, probably) that sex with a person who has both tits and a dick is homosexual in nature, when the guy is sucking that dick or getting fucked by it.