Sure there are a few people who actually leave their wives when they have met their “soul mate”. Although he gets to the point where he is saying he loves the side chick, he is usually more in love with his kids.In a loveless marriage with small children, the kids become more of a silver lining and the focus of all the reasons to deal with the unhappiness of no sex and conversation that only revolves around household duties (“did you pay the light bill?”, and perceives this as being put first (the one thing that women want to feel in a relationship).
The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife.
They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share.
The woman goes through self-esteem issues and starts to wonder why she is settling for less than what she deserves.
If the man is not a total ass, he will feel the guilt every time he looks in his wife’s eyes, and he will try to ease the guilt by taking her out on a date, or suggesting a family vacation, etc.
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.